Vi har en brevskola som lär dig allt du behöver veta om hypnos med ett brev i veckan. Roligt, enkelt och effektivt.
Café Hypnos är en övningsgrupp för dig som håller på med hypnos.
Vi definierar begreppet hypnos i en vid mening. Allt från coaching och terapi via personlig utveckling till scenunderhållning och mentalism.
Café Hypnos är en underavdelning till International Hypnotist Guild, en branschorganisation för hypnotisörer och hypnos intresserade världen över.
Café Hypnos välkomnar alla som vill komma och ta del på ett icke dömande sätt. Nyfikna och nybörjare såväl som erfarna, proffs. Café Hypnos värnar om respekt för allas verklighet och perspektiv vilket skapar grogrund för utveckling.
Ämnen och övningar som kan dyka upp
– Arbetsminnet och inlärning
– Binaurala och isochroniska toner
– Boogie Woogie och koordinationsförmåga
Varmt Välkommen / Mats Gaffa Karlsson
Our colleague Patrik Larsson just listened to a podcast with Adam Eason. It’s from a Hypnosis Convention earlier this year (2017) in the UK. The panel consists of Gary Turner, Adam Eason, Melissa Tiers, Anthony Jacquin & James Tripp.
1h16min of mixed hypno-talk.
Top 3 desert island hypnosis books.
– Overdurf, Training Trances
– Thought Vail, Jerome Finley
– Adam Eason, science of self-hypnosis
– Trance-formations, B&G (helped her understand Miltons books)
– Milton Ericson: Exploratory casebook, or Hypnotic realities
– Monsters & Magical Sticks (gave her a perspective on hypnosis)
– Training Trances, Overdurf
– Louder than words, Benjamin Bergen (also wrote What the F)
– Memory, Michael Eysenck
– Cognitive psychology, Michael Eysenck
– Monster & Magical Sticks (always his top 1)
– How emotions are made, Lisa Feldman Barrett (not hypnosis)
– Hypnotic Techniques – David Calof
– Jörgen Rasmussen, “Provocative Hypnosis”. (#4)
– Oxford Handbook of Hypnosis, Michael Nash
– Casebook of clinical hypnosis, Steven Jay Lynn & Irving Kirsch
– Hypnosis and suggestibility (1933), Clark Hull
By Ulf Sandström and Gunilla Hamne, courtesy of The Peaceful Heart Network
- We believe world peace and stability depends on individual peace and stability, and that you can be a part of creating it.
- To develop and spread the worlds most efficient models and techniques, such as TTT, for minimizing symptoms of stress and trauma at a minimum cost.
- To make it globally scalable and available to everyone.
- To collaborate with every organisation and individual interested in the same goals.
- To provide all know-how as open source.
These are ten essentials for mental health that we find important. For more information visit our website.
1. Understanding mental health in relation to social context
Our capacity to handle stress is related to the present social context and situation – a new environment can trigger the nervous system in a “new” way. Stress is not like a broken leg that is just as broken regardless of where the person is – it is a reaction to a situation and social context that triggers a response there fore it is important to create a context where people feel safe and can relax.
2. Understanding stress and trauma
Stress is invisible and hard to identify. To know and be able to identify signs of stress is to be able to self calibrate. To understand the mechanics of stress and trauma is to be able to understand how to work with and help people suffering from this.
3.Avoiding transference of trauma – Secondary trauma
Both stress and trauma can be transferred from one person to another – similar to how a virus is spread. There are hygienic approaches to mental health – in effect there are precautions we all need to take take to prevent stress from building up and spreading or how we can avoid catching it from others.4. Flashbacks/ Flashbulb memories
When we experience a flashbulb memory, or flashback, it is like we are temporarily displaced from the reality of now and react through a filter of the past. A person in this state needs to be brought back into now and to a sense of safety. This can be done with grounding techniques.
5. The health care pyramid
There are many things that can be done without experts. If we turn the pyramid of health care up side down allowing everybody to be a part of the solution many more will be helped. Article>>
6. Physical and mental resilience
To have resilience is to be able to handle and bounce back from stressful situations. Resilience can be trained. One way is to know how to secure enough sleep, food , water and exercise. Already after a few days without sleep we risk poorer judgement, and in the long run psychosis. Knowing how to access a moment of deep relaxation by self regulation can be a vital help. Being prepared mentally for things that can happen creates empowerment and resilience.7. Social context
Human beings are social creatures. Creating a safe social context is a key component of preserving, healing and maintaining mental health. There are simple ways of integrating this into daily routines.
8.Adopting an attitude of empowerment
How we approach helping others will affect how we can handle our workload and difficulties. It is shown through research that we handle these situations better when we come from a position with
9. Culture and communication
Always take local culture and ways of communication into consideration, or as we say “ Take off your shoes and listen”. Listening and asking before imposing or offering help are key elements.
10. Practical techniques
A grounding technique is a way to quickly help an individual that is slipping into an extreme stress reaction.
B.Group exercises in the organization and partner organizations
C.Reaching out to others with First Aid for stress and trauma
Hypnos istället för bedövning!
Kul och intressant intervju med Basil Finer!
By Ulf Sandström – This article first appeared in the Journal of Healing and Hypnotherapy (Volume 1, March 2017)
The Soul GPS is a hypnotic tool that I add at the end of almost every session to reinforce the positive transformations we have initiated and because it seems to be an incredibly healing and strengthening tool for any future challenges
If you are familiar with Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) or if you want to google some of the components mentioned, you will recognize that this intervention contains elements of the Circle Of Excellence where you create and anchor a state of peak performance, Future Pacing – testing a new emotional state in imagined future situations, Time Line – where the new state is brought back to earlier challenges to see if the outcome is better and Perceptual Positions – where you get to see yourself and your life from different perspectives. It is in part based on research that your body can reverse engineer feel-good hormones if we smile (check the TED-talk on Power Posing by Amy Cuddy) allowing that very smile through an emotional spin to make it as large as possible and then condition it to become an anchor that re-triggers the state. It involves reframing your life into a positive although unknown outcome through this smile and then using this smile to make better decisions and face challenges with a state of resilience from this moment.
By the time I introduce this content there has already been an interview, a hypnotic induction a trance deepener and an intervention of some sort depending on the issues at hand. No two sessions are alike so try to observe the underlying patterns rather than regarding the text as a script. (My comments and reflections are in brackets).
“Now…. Imagine yourself arriving into the future, where you find yourself standing on a beach, looking out over the ocean, and you are over 100 years old, maybe even 117 – according to the Bible 120 years is fully possible for us to become already over 2000 years ago – imagine… if you have kids they are retired already… and you may feel the warm sand under the soles of your feet (kinesthetic), hearing the waves (auditive) and maybe smelling that special characteristic of a beach (olfactory) as the sun shines in a beautiful way, like a sunset or a sunrise (visual) and as in a dream a wonderful spaceship can be coming to take you to the next stage of existence… whatever that can be…
(My sessions are packed with metaphors and humor, and I find that framing our last moment as being picked up by a spaceship takes the edge of dying for most, and 117 years usually widens their perspectives. As an observation very few people have decided on a specific age they would like to reach, except in Sweden, where the song “Happy Birthday” repeats the line “may you live until 100 years of age” which I find depressing in many making all birthdays after 50 a downhill count. At least for me, singing 150 improves the mood of any birthday.)
As you imagine standing there on the beach you may realize what life was truly all about, and that so many things you thought were important at the time are completely irrelevant now, in the future, as you are summing it up…. and the only way you will know for sure that you did the right things, made te right desicions, are content with your long life, is by the smile you can find on your face, as you think of everything, what kind of smile you want to have on your face, summing up a lifetime of good and bad, ups and downs, grief, joy, disease, love, disaster, work, darkness, light and extatic moments… the kind of smile you would like to have when everything is over…
(here, that exact smile usually appears on the clients face) yes, that’s it, your body knows, because if you remember, before you ever knew anything, before you knew your name, as an infant, that looks into the eyes of a friendly person, that is safe and warm and fed, and somebody says “peek a boo” and you may giggle…. and that is the same smile, of pure simple happiness… as a red thread you may wish for throughout your life… into that future… and now spin it and make it stronger, and bigger… warmer – this is your smile, your desicion, how you want to feel about life then, looking back…
(here I put an anchor on their knee if the smile is great, which is usually is)
And now… allow that smile to enter every cell of your body and mind… this is your soul smiling through your face… allow every door to open that has to do with that smile… and let it through… like a surprise birthday party in a great story…
And in this future… back in the past, when you move forward from now… every decision you make, from what sock to put on first, what to eat, when to sleep, who to call, what career to pursue and what relations you will work for… will be led by this smile, it is the GPS of your soul.. . simply think about any decision in the past or future and try this smile, if it fits, it is the right decision, to look back on, when you are on that spaceship, 117 years old…. going back to start over…. now, letting a part of you move forward, and another part moves in the other direction, flying curiously back past 112, 105, 99… celebrating 90 line dancing on the Chinese Wall… 87, 84, 83, 72… flowing back through the future, smiling… (reinforcing with the anchor point) 68, 62… (counting backwards until we are getting close to your current age, that I always check at the interview) and now, as you are floating over the city (where we are during the session) you find that you can recognize the road you took to get here earlier today, This rolex replica watch is the result of in-depth research and development carried out by the Laboratorio di Idee within the hublot in Neuchatel. you see a window (if there is one) and behind it you can see yourself sitting with your eyes closed in a leather chair (if you are with me that’s what you will be sitting in), with that very same smile. Imagine… floating in over you and then landing in yourself in the same way you might step into a pair of well worn shoes that fit so perfectly… and when you are completely in yourself now and here and you can feel that smile, you can 1, take a moment, 2, as I count to five and you will emerge on the other side of this experience, 3, feeling the changes, 4, noticing, and remember some time if you as a child ran down to water and jumped in, or saw somebody do it, that feeling when you take a leap of faith and smile 5, now!”
I korthet har Socialstyrelsen främst siktat på interventioner och metoder som utvärderats (validerats) men missat att följa upp ifall de i praktiken fungerar för patienterna. En dylik utfalls-värdering skulle troligt lyfta fram värdet av komplementära metoder som hypnos.
How To Use Clean Language In Hypnosis
By Judy Rees
And when it’s there, is there anything else about it? Does it have a size or a shape?
And when it’s there, and it’s that size and that shape, it’s like…. What?
Before reading on, draw a quick diagram or picture to represent your answer.
Whatever you drew will almost certainly be a metaphor: it compares the abstract concept of joy to something much more tangible.
And your metaphor will be entirely unique. Sometimes it’ll strike others as surprising, or even bizarre – like Will Pharrell’s metaphor for Happy, “like a room without a roof”.
It’s more likely your metaphor will share certain similarities with other people’s metaphors – a great many people will experience joy as having up-ness and/or outwardness, warmth and brightness.
But the details of every person’s metaphors are different.
For example, two people might both say that their joy is like a bird flying free. But ask a few simple questions about the metaphor – “What kind of bird?” for example – and very soon the differences will emerge.
Clean Language works with this phenomenon to provide a powerful and deceptively simple technique to help people to change in profound ways.
What’s Unusual About Clean Language?
Clean Language was devised by the late David Grove – an enthusiast for Ericksonian hypnosis – in the 1980s. What began as an experimental approach to working with traumatised individuals in therapy has developed into a coaching tool, a research methodology, and a way of developing groups and teams.
While Clean Language shares superficial similarities with other therapeutic approaches, key principles which make it unusual (if not unique) include:
- Noticing and utilising the client’s own metaphors, rather than metaphors introduced by the therapist/coach/facilitator. In ordinary English, we use about six metaphors per minute: similar densities are found in other languages. These metaphors emerge from the client’s unconscious mind because, as the scientists are increasingly realising, we think in metaphor, at both a conscious and unconscious level.
- Using a specific set of questions with the aim of minimising the introduction of content – including presuppositions and metaphors – from the therapist/coach/facilitator (“staying Clean”). The clients’ exact words are used as far as possible.
- Not making any deliberate attempt to change the client or their metaphors. Instead, the approach relies on modelling – the therapist/coach/facilitator helps the client to find out about their own way of doing things, their own inner world, their own metaphors. Change (where change is appropriate) comes from the client, not from the therapist/coach/facilitator.
Current understanding of David Grove’s work owes a lot to Penny Tompkins and James Lawley, two NLP trainers who modeled his approach (and published the book Metaphors in Mind).
To the casual reader, Clean Language may appear to echo the NLP meta model. However in practice it often has a strong physical component and can be more of a somatic than a linguistic technique, with strong similarities to Eugene Gendlin’s Focussing.
After developing Clean Language and teaching it extensively, David Grove went on to create a number of explicitly body- and space-based techniques including Clean Space and Emergent Knowledge.
You had a small taste of Clean Language in the activity which opened this article. Now lets go a little deeper.
Take your metaphor for the feeling of joy (the one you drew), and give it a label if it doesn’t already have one. For example, “A bird flying free”.
Then ask yourself a few Clean Language questions:
- What kind of <label> is that?
- Is there anything else about <label>?
- Whereabouts is <label>?
Continue to ask the same questions (in any order) about your answers. Use only these questions and your own words (represented by “X” here):
- What kind of X (is that X)?
- Is there anything else about X?
- Whereabouts is X?
And notice what happens! Many people will find that the emotion of joy deepens as they explore the metaphor – where attention goes, energy flows.
Clean Language In Practice
Naturally, this self-guided activity gives only a hint of what can happen in a session with a trained facilitator, who will ask Clean Language questions in a more structured way.
- In therapy, clients often enter a state of deep absorption in their own inner landscape which has been likened to a hypnotic trance. (In his early days, Grove taught this technique only to qualified hynotherapists.) As they explore their metaphors, these often seem to shift and change of their own accord, without requiring the client’s conscious intervention. A Clean Language-based psychotherapy session typically uses only Clean Language – the therapist doesn’t combine it with other techniques.
- Clean coaches will often keep the tone more conversational, moving back and forth between the metaphor and the real-life subject it represents. A Clean coaching session may well generate crystal-clear outcomes and a sharp to-do list. But the list will often include a mixture of real-life and metaphorical items: “Research training courses” alongside “Talk to my octopus every day”. Coaches often blend Clean Language with other approaches (such as the GROW Model etc).
- Healthcare professionals will often use Clean Language questions to elicit the details of a patient’s metaphorical description of a symptom, as a small part of a more conventional appointment.
- Hypnotists who have a basic understanding of Clean Language will often use the Clean Language questions to elicit details of a client’s metaphoric landscape, to find out how the client is thinking about a topic at an unconscious level. This information is then used to construct a tailored conventional intervention.
- More unusually, James Tripp has used his knowledge of Clean Language (and another Grovian technique, Clean Space) to innovate Hypnosis Without Trance.
To Find Out More
- Clean Language: Revealing Metaphors and Opening Minds by Wendy Sullivan and Judy Rees
- Clean Approaches For Coaches by Marian Way
- The Five-Minute Coach by Lynne Cooper and Mariette Castellino
- From Contempt To Curiosity by Catilin Walker (out April 2014)
Judy Rees helps people to hear what’s going on at a deeper level. Using the Clean-Language-based process X-Ray Listening, she coaches intelligent professionals in moving beyond the stress-centred corporate hamster wheel. She is the co-author of Clean Language: Revealing Metaphors and Opening Minds and the owner of www.learncleanlanguage.com
(By Ulf Sandström)
I propose it is time for a modern version of the Hippocratic and Osteopathic oath for every therapeutic practise, including those involving hypnosis. Your reflections are welcome.
I do hereby affirm my loyalty to the profession I am about to enter. I will be mindful always of my great responsibility to preserve the health, the emotional balance and life of my clients. To retain their confidence and respect in that I will guard their secrets with scrupulous honor and fidelity. To perform faithfully my professional duties. To employ every possible method of treatment consistent with good judgment, with my skill and abilities, keeping in mind always nature’s laws and the body and minds inherent capacity and will for recovery.
I will be ever vigilant in aiding the general welfare of the community, never engaging in those practices which will in any way bring shame or discredit upon myself or my profession.
I will always look with and open minded critical respect and curiosity upon every old and new technique presented as a tool in my profession, knowing that it is my personal responsibility to decide what tools to use for the best of my clients. I will strive to keep my mind open and regard every client as unique, and every symptom and strategy as something that may have a valuable intent, regardless of my own values.
I will ever be prepared to share my experiences and learnings with those who wish to learn, and affirm their loyalties to the same values as I have defined here. I will ever be alert to further the application of basic truths to the healing arts and to develop the principles of change work and therapeutic interventions for the well being of my clients.
I will endeavor to work in accord with my colleagues in a spirit of progressive cooperation, and never by work or by act cast imputations upon them or their rightful practices. At the same time I will endeavor to look for the best of my clients emotional and mental welfare in all situations, and be prepared to act against misuse of this profession, should it come to my awareness. I will be informed about the ethics, insurances and laws that govern my profession and the safety of my client in my area of work. I will always take full responsibility for my actions.
The osteopathic oath is modern version of the Hippocratic Oath for administration to osteopathic college graduates was initiated by a suggestion from Frank E. MacCracken, DO, of California to his state society. Within a year, the suggestion went from the state to the national association, and a committee was formed under the Associated Colleges of Osteopathy to prepare the text. Members of that committee included Dr. MacCracken, as chairman, and Drs. R.C. McCaughan, Walter V. Goodfellow, and Edward T. Abbott. The first version was used from 1938 until 1954, at which time minor amendments were adopted. This version has been in use since 1954.
I do hereby affirm my loyalty to the profession I am about to enter. I will be mindful always of my great responsibility to preserve the health and the life of my patients, to retain their confidence and respect both as a physician and a friend who will guard their secrets with scrupulous honor and fidelity, to perform faithfully my professional duties, to employ only those recognized methods of treatment consistent with good judgment and with my skill and ability, keeping in mind always nature’s laws and the body’s inherent capacity for recovery.
I will be ever vigilant in aiding in the general welfare of the community, sustaining its laws and institutions, not engaging in those practices which will in any way bring shame or discredit upon myself or my profession. I will give no drugs for deadly purposes to any person, though it be asked of me.
I will endeavor to work in accord with my colleagues in a spirit of progressive cooperation and never by word or by act cast imputations upon them or their rightful practices.
I will look with respect and esteem upon all those who have taught me my art. To my college I will be loyal and strive always for its best interests and for the interests of the students who will come after me. I will be ever alert to further the application of basic biologic truths to the healing arts and to develop the principles of osteopathy which were first enunciated by Andrew Taylor Still.
Dr. B. M. Palan M.D., D.Clin.Hypno. (USA)
How Mind is the Master?
There are seven fields of relationships in our life: The universal field wherein I am connected with the universe; the social field wherein I am related with the society (my country, my city, my cast); the professional field in which I am relating with my organization; the field of family where I am related to my family; the physical field in which I am related with my body, the mental field wherein I am related with my mind and finally, the intellectual field wherein I relate with my intellect.
In every relationship there are mutual expectations and desires. I have expectation from the universe that there should be optimum rains every year, the climate should not be too hot or cool and so on. And the universe expects me to take care of the carbon emission or other pollutants. I have expectations from my fellow people in the society; my city, my government and all. The city, the government and the society expect me to follow their rules properly. I have expectations that my organization should pay me a certain amount or give me certain facilities, while the organization expects me to work efficiently and honestly. I have expectations from my wife/husband and the children and in turn they all have many expectations from me. I have desires in the field of my body that it should be healthy, strong and good looking. My body would expect me to give proper diet, rest and exercise to it. I would wish my mind to be calm, happy and confident always; while my mind would wish me to give appropriate relaxation and recreation to it.
I wish to have sharp and subtle intellect and my intellect would need me to feed it with proper knowledge. Some of my desires and expectations are fulfilled (‘successes’) and many of them remain un-fulfilled (‘failures’). Generally, when there is success, I am happy – I celebrate but when I face failure, I am un-happy – I mourn. Even though the fulfilment of desire gives me happiness, neither it will be everlasting nor will it be absolute happiness. Either my desire will increase or change or I realize that the same object, individual or situation brought me problems also. Then I will have some another desire and the same cycle will repeat. Ultimately I will land up with the desire which will not be fulfilled and I will be unhappy. This way the Mind becomes my Master.
Why shall I Master my Mind?
If I master my mind then only my thoughts, feelings, motivations, decisions and resulting behaviour remain conducive for myself – I can adapt with the ever changing world around me, I can recover or rather grow (be more mature) from negative life events and stressors. If I have mastered my mind then my mental and physical health is maintained well under all circumstances. We know that disruption in the ability to regulate the duration and degree of negative thoughts and feelings leads to depression and other mood disorders while their suppression would disturb physiological functioning. Ultimately mastering the mind will maintain a sense of well-being and happiness for which I struggle throughout my life.
How can I Master my Mind?
We may consider the desire to be the cause of our unhappiness and we may wish not to have any further desires. This wish (which itself is again a desire!) can never be fulfilled because it is not in our hand to create or get rid of any desire. Desires are natural and they are created by themselves. Desires themselves are not the cause of our unhappiness. But the insistence for taking action on every desire and the attitude that always I must get outcome of my actions exactly according to my desire – are the causes of unhappiness. Insistence for the desire of getting something what I want is called raga and insistence for the desire of getting rid of something what I don’t want is called dwesha. It is this insistence (the raga and dwesha), which can be modified. I can become the Master of my Mind by:
(1) Choosing the right desire to act upon, and
(2) Creating the right kind of attitude towards the outcome – the result of my action.
(1) Choosing the right desire
We are blessed with three strengths: The ability to desire (Ichcha shakti), the ability to act on the desire (Karya shakti) and the intellect – ability to observe, analyze, differentiate, integrate, appraise, interpret, understand and make a choice (Budhdhi shakti). Before taking action on the desire, we need to use our intellect to examine the desire and decide whether it is to be fulfilled or not.
There are three criteria for examining the desire: (A) the state of mind, (B) the Preya vs. Shreya, and (C) the number of beneficiaries.
[It is the observation by rishis or the knowledge imparted by the oldest books of knowledge – the Vedanta or Upanishadas – that the consciousness or awareness (there are many terms used to indicate the same, like the Brahman or the chaitanya or the purusha or the adhisthana or the Unified Field of Awareness or the Non-local Pure Potential) is manifested in the form of material universe (the abhivyakti, the local potential) and then un-manifested into pure consciousness again by itself. It goes on happening repeatedly again and again – no one is doing this, it is the intrinsic quality of the consciousness itself. The duration of these cycles of manifestation and un-manifestation may range from fraction of a second (for example, consciousness manifesting as a thought and next moment un-manifesting and then may be another thought) to many millions of years (for example, consciousness manifesting in the form of this planet, Earth which may un-manifest after several millions of years).
It is the knowledge of Upnishadas that while manifesting, the consciousness will have some design – some laws or some order – which may be called “intention” or the wish of God. This design is based on the above mentioned three criteria of examining our desire (originating in the local manifested potential in the form of the human mind). If our desire is matching with the intrinsic design of the consciousness, it will be fulfilled (provided we work on it) but if our desire is different from the original design, the “intention”, then it will never be fulfilled. So there is wisdom in checking, before taking action, whether our desire is matching with the design of the universe or not. If it is not matching, we need not to waste our energy and time unnecessarily.]
In the first criterion we need to think, before acting on the desire, that what mental state we are likely to have at three different points of time: (I) before taking action on the desire, (II) while working on the desire and (III) after completion of the task. We need to see, ahead of taking up the task, whether we have clarity and enthusiasm in mind or we have confusion about doing it before we start working on our desire. While acting on the desire whether we would like people to know or we would want to hide it from the people – ‘nobody should know that we are doing this’. And finally, after completion of the task are we going to feel joy and contentment (bliss) or we are likely to feel guilty? If we find that before starting the work we have clear and enthusiastic mind; while working on the desire we would want people to know it; and at the end we are likely to feel blissful, we are suppose to work on that desire. This desire is more likely to fit into the design of the Universe.
The second criterion is about checking, weather the fulfilment of my desire is going to be preya – giving me happiness only for a short while (and then it is likely to be the cause of my unhappiness) or it will be shreya – giving me long term happiness (may be initially I may find it to be difficult or painful). If we find that it is going to be shreya then that desire is more likely to be fitting into the design of the Universe, we need to work on that. Ability to differentiate between preya and shreya is known as viveka.
The third criterion is thinking about how many people are going to be benefited by fulfilment of our desire? The Shastras say that an individual or a smaller group of people need to sacrifice their own desire for the benefit of larger number of people. So, if I find that fulfilment of my desire is going to give me happiness but it will cause suffering to my family, I am suppose to let go my desire for the happiness of my family. And if happiness of the family is going to be damaging to the city, the family need to sacrifice its desire for the benefit of the city. Though the city is going to be benefited by fulfilment of a desire, but it is going to create problem for the nation, then for the nation the city need to let go of its interest. And similarly for the benefit of the whole world, the nation needs to sacrifice its own interests. This criterion seems to be most difficult but we can see that in the matter of carbon emission and pollution, at least some meetings are held now – people have started thinking together for the benefit of the entire earth. It is realized clearly that for my own long term happiness, I need to think about happiness of others also.
When we find our desire passing the above three criteria (according to our own limited intellect), we need to work on it at our level best. We need to use our body, mind, intellect, strength, skills, resources, time, and everything fully to perform on the task. We need to give our hundred percent for fulfilment of our desire thus examined. Taking action – working hard is very important. Then there will be the result of our action.
(2) Attitude towards the result
There are four possible outcomes of our efforts: We may get exactly what we expected; we may get something more; or something less; or the result may be just the opposite. The knowledge of upnishadas suggest that the result is always going to be the one necessary for our long term happiness (shreya), for our growth, the one which can make us more mature; which can lead us to fulfil the purpose (the mission) of our life. The result is always befitting with the design of the universe, the “intention”.
As we learn to accept the result gracefully with this understanding, we grow – we become more mature. We start realizing that in all the seven fields of life, the events and situations were designed to gradually lead us to this maturity. We start realizing that when our desires are fulfilled (through the objects, persons or situations), we do get happiness, but this happiness does not exist permanently, neither it is absolute happiness. And our search is for everlasting and absolute happiness. We gradually move on to discover the harmony, the justice, the order in the universe. As we recognize and follow this order (existing, for example, in the form of laws of physics or biology or epistemological law), we achieve the inner state of blissfulness independent of objects, persons or situations. And this is being Master of our Mind. This is the real growth for which we are blessed with this wonderful pilgrimage in the form of human life.